“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” (Jn 13:34-35)
Jesus was not calling them to a 60’s-style “Love-In” where the sex was freely offered to whomever and whenever. It is not erotic love that Jesus is commanding them to demonstrate to the world here. For some reason the present world view seems to want us to believe that sex equals love and that’s it. Outside of the marriage covenant God has designed, sex equals lust not love; to satisfy one’s own urgings by using someone else. Worse yet, this is the message our kids are getting, too. If they feel a deep fondness/love for someone, there is the expectation that sex will follow, regardless of the gender of their attraction. This has wrought such confusion in the minds and hearts of our kids and it just is not true.
Jesus had a couple of really good friends among His disciples, Peter and John. They were the two Jesus took with Him when He went up to the Mount of Transfiguration. John was said to be Jesus’ best friend, the disciple Jesus loved. We know that John was deeply committed to the Lord. Father God used John mightily, which is evidenced by the legacy his writings have left us. John, of course, wrote his account of the time they were with Jesus, but John also wrote three letters and the Book of Revelations which were included in the New Testament. Indeed, John showed his love for Jesus by obeying Him and the Father. This is what Jesus says will show that we love Him; we will obey Him and keep His commandments. John certainly did!
One verse in the Gospel of John is, sadly, taken as “proof” that John and Jesus had a relationship of which God would not have approved and that it was accepted by the others. The scene is what we call “The Lord’s Supper” and Jesus has just told them that one of them will betray him. Those verses are found in John Chapter Thirteen verses 22-25:
His disciples stared at one another, at a loss to know which of them he meant. One of them, the disciple whom Jesus loved, was reclining next to him. Simon Peter motioned to this disciple and said, “Ask him which one he means.”Leaning back against Jesus, he asked him, “Lord, who is it?”
It is so ludicrous to think that this passage is proof that the two men had anything other than a relationship approved by Father God. Jesus was God in the flesh and would never have not represented the commandments and laws of God while He walked through His mission on earth. He was to live a sinless life on earth in order to be the perfect sacrifice for us. There is no question what God thought of homosexuality. Of course, God loves those who are homosexuals and we should, too; but, God is not looking the other way with any sin committed. The Bible clearly states that homosexuality is a sin so it is not possible that Jesus and John had anything other than a relationship that pleased the Father in Heaven who saw such practices as an abomination. No, what this verse shows us is that John was Jesus’ best friend and it is okay for us to have best friends, no matter how old or young we are. There is a love that has nothing at all to do with sex, even if the world wants us all to think such a love is not possible. Let your kids know Jesus proved it is!
**** Have a terrific weekend!